To all successful women out there, this is a message for you. Today I want to talk about how putting yourself last is the biggest mistake you can make.

In our culture, we’ve been taught that putting yourself first is selfish.

You’ve got to be a good girl, you’ve got to learn to share, others have to come first, make sure you set a good example and worst of all other people’s needs are more important than your own.

We forgot to learn how to look after ourselves.

And what people forget is that women are actually the epicenter of the family. When you’re doing well the rest of your family are doing well. And when you’re feeling burnt out the rest of the family are suffering.

We’ve got to get over this innate worry that putting ourselves first we will be perceived as bad selfish women and not good enough.

This is so untrue, it’s not even funny.

We must learn to put ourselves first, we have to be at the top of our list because if we keep putting ourselves last, then, ultimately everybody else around us, the people that we love, are going to suffer.

So, I need you to start thinking ‘Are my primary needs being met at the moment. And if not, how do I get them met.

How can I learn to listen to my body? How can I give my body, my mind, my soul what it actually needs? Because remember, a woman owning her own worth is a magnetic woman.

*You need to stop doing and start being.

*Stop thinking and start feeling.

*Stop holding on to control and start letting go and surrendering.

Control is something that comes up all the time with my clients,

We seem to have been conditioned that we have to be in control of everything, that we need to make sure that we don’t drop the ball, that we are responsible for everything…. because that’s basically what control means.

It means that you are making yourself as responsible for everything.  Literally anything good that could go wrong, you’re holding yourself responsible for it.

Now imagine how heavy and tiring that would feel, to have that pressure on you all the time.

It’s hardly surprising that you’ve not got time to spend thinking about what you really want in life, or how can you make yourself happy and fulfilled. It’s because you’re always putting everybody else first. And that’s not going to work. It’s not sustainable.

We are always being told to put your life jacket on first, to give yourself the oxygen first, and I totally agree, yet how many of us don’t ….you have to put yourself first, because if you don’t, nobody else will, and everybody else will suffer.

It’s not selfish. It’s absolutely vital.

If you’ve spent the last however long, giving your power to other people and putting everybody else first. If you’re tired of trying to make the changes that aren’t working, and you’re willing to take an honest look at yourself then come and talk to me, because this is the sort of thing that I help women with all the time.

Treat yourself with compassion and respect. Speak and live your truth, because not only does it free yourself, but it frees others around you.

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